speaking the truth into existence
and actually living it
Don miguel ruiez the four agreements: The first agreement.
Thats not the whole picture.
Combine that with follow through.
A truth in word only is not necessarily the truth
A truth in word plus action combined is the best thing you can give to another person.
Have you ever told someone else you were going to do something then turn around and ghost them with no word of warning, no heads up? Its not a recipe for trust; granted, maybe you had your reasons, but why the lack of communication?
We arranged to meet on a Wednesday, you mentioned on Tuesday that Thursday is better, okay no problem. I'll shuffle around my commitments and Ill do my best to make it work. Thursday rolls around, its 5 o clock and im expecting a call. No call. 7 o clock. Maybe somethings up. I have no way of knowing. 9:00? Fuck it. Ive got no patience left, and no trust left either. im going to sleep. Maybe ill get that call, get up, and head out for the meeting. It's important to me so i don't mind. Well I'm writing this article so maybe I do...
I arranged to meet up with someone else that same week. "Hey bud, ill be in town in two weeks, let me know whats happening so we can catch up."
"Sure, sounds good."
The week before. "Okay man, gonna be in town next week, we still good 2 go?"
"Yeah buddy, its my birthday soon, lets celebrate."
"Awesome cant wait."
The day before. "Hey, what are you doing on sunday, I'll be rolling into town then."
"Oh, I'm in Victoria until Tuesday." Shit.
"Alright, let me know when you get back. Heres my number, text me because i have no wifi on the road" Hmm maybe my friend doesnt realise how important this is to me. Can't be deliberate betrayal right? Please tell me its not that.
So Wednesday rolls around, then Thursday, then Friday and I have no patience left. I mean, I get it that you have your own life, and maybe you're dealing with some shit and thats fine if you are. At least tell the person who is counting on you what is happening, maybe he can support you. Maybe you didn't stop to consider that this other person has their own shit to deal with too. Maybe he put a tremendous amount of energy into it and you just ghosted the fuck out of him. You can fuck off. I no longer tolerate this type of behaviour.
To me, a word spoken without being backed up with action to support it is the same as lying to another person's face. Its a betrayal. Its not the mark of a mature human being, let alone a successful one. I pride myself in doing exactly what I say I will do - when I say I am going to do it. Is it wrong that I should hold others to the same standard?
When being an excellent judge of character, one should watch for this type of horseshit. People who do this make me sick with stress, and while i understand that we're only human and we can't be all perfect all the time, at least try to have the decency to try just a little bit. I mean seriously, grow the fuck up. If you told another person that you're going to do something, either follow through, or pick up the phone (or get on whatever text messenger) and tell them that you can not commit. Do not jerk people around. Its dishonest, and its a good way to extinguish all loyalty that existed.
Say what you mean, do what you say. Do this to keep relationships healthy.