I shone a light in a dark corner - this is what I found...

I see it in myself even. Sometimes it feels uncomfortable to shine a light into the darkest corners...

Last year while doing some self-work, I discovered my true authenticity. It came from within. I discovered this technique to reprogram my subconscious, to write a brand-new script, one more conducive towards success. That said, there's always work to be done, I am at least humble enough to acknowledge this. I see it in myself even if it is sometimes uncomfortable to shine a light into the darkest corners. Reminds me of how the more one learns, the more is revealed. That is, there’s even more that we don't know - always something new to discover. I have to remind myself that the Journey is the destination, not the destination itself….

I often find myself reaching too hard for things, goals, outcomes... I felt myself always reaching, grasping, but it always seemed to slip away as hard as I tried. Like a moving goalpost.  A big lesson for me. Towards letting go, towards trusting, and allowing myself to receive. Life seems to flow much better that way. A discovery, a small milestone. I’ll keep this in the back of my mind and play a game with myself - to see if I can spot the reminders life presents as they appear in my day-to-day activities, as synchronicities, as events, as uncomfortable moments or challenges, as things I’d rather avoid - acknowledging that sometimes the hard thing is the thing that’s worth doing. because it’s outside the comfort zone where the growth is.

Vulnerability used to be a challenge. I say used to, because it’s a skill that is improving. I could imagine the hard shell of safety that comes from avoidance of risk… Now, If I were to tell myself that Vulnerability is my weakness, I’d be more likely to act as-if, and the reality would reflect… Expressing myself without fear of judgment, this used to be a much bigger challenge for me and while I’ve made great strides to overcome, there is still, as always much work still to do…

Authenticity from a place of self-worth, of self-discovery, and vulnerability and the expression of it shamelessly, unapologetically. It comes from the heart, from that inner-knowing. Relatability as a reflection of the expression from others mirrored back as it is put out into the world. There’s a concept from the book ‘The Four Agreements’ - the foggy mirror - others as a reflection of ourselves. I like to remind myself of this all the time.

I wonder if Authenticity, Vulnerability, and Relatability might be to self-knowledge as Grammar logic and rhetoric are to learning.

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I’m reminded of an experience where I was “on the fence” about making a commitment, and taking a step. I took the step anyway, learning from past experience that overthinking can be an Achilles' heel. A decision I would regret more having not taken the step in the first place. I’ve learned that sometimes it’s better to jump in - both feet - and learn to swim along the way. An expense made me nervous, I forgot to trust my intuition and I reacted, instead of letting go with trust that the experience would play out ideally naturally. I could have saved myself some stress by trusting my gut on this one. Believe in the possibility, Live the desired outcome, live as-if and flow with it. A lesson learned. I’ll take extra care to Observe this pattern in the future.


I’ve been assisting a client with a critical eye for detail. My expectations might have been a faster-and-looser final product based on our discovery session, the volume of content, budget, time-frame and it’s intended purpose. Over the months as we progressed, reality would prove otherwise. Many rounds of revisions. This is somewhat to be expected though. Occasionally, during our check-ins and meetings, I reacted poorly to the conditions, even though we both respected each other's role in the project. My reaction was from a deep limiting-belief that maybe my work was not good enough, or maybe he didn't appreciate the amount of time it takes to get the level of detail he was seeking. This was later resolved through an honest discussion. Sometimes I might feel a certain way about the way others might feel without any proof. Its normally easy to spot this and remind myself that it’s an internal issue. Fact is though, any reaction that arises has consequences, as if ones inner-perception has just as big an impact on one's life as an external event would, maybe more. Sometimes I jokingly call the idea gaslighting myself for success but that’s another story. So we ended up having an honest conversation, It was a good chance to practice that vulnerability, eventually renegotiating our agreement to better reflect the scope of the project. It was a difficult reminder of how very important this idea of Reaction vs Response is... At the end of the day, I can only responsibility for my reaction with gratitude that I was at least, aware of my limiting beliefs here - on the one hand, enough to avoid disaster - on the other hand, not enough for ultimate victory. Lessons learned I suppose.

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​Recommendations for Continued Growth

• Practice mindful observation of your reactions in daily situations to strengthen the gap between stimulus and response
• Keep a reflection journal to track patterns in your emotional responses and celebrate progress in vulnerability
• Set specific challenges to step outside your comfort zone regularly, but with self-compassion
• Develop a meditation practice to enhance your awareness of limiting beliefs as they arise
• Create accountability partnerships with others on similar journeys of self-discovery
• Remember that setbacks are natural parts of growth - use them as learning opportunities rather than proof of limitation
• Continue practicing honest communication, starting with small situations and building up to more challenging ones

The key is to maintain momentum while being gentle with yourself. Growth isn't linear, and each experience - whether perceived as positive or negative - contributes to your development.

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TL:DR​

• Authenticity emerges from deep self-work and inner discovery, requiring continuous growth and self-awareness
• True progress comes from letting go of constant striving and allowing life to flow naturally
• Vulnerability, though challenging, is a developing skill that requires moving beyond the safety of avoidance
• Self-worth, self-discovery, and vulnerability combine to create genuine authenticity
• Reactions often stem from limiting beliefs and internal perceptions rather than external reality
• Honest communication and self-awareness can transform reactive patterns into thoughtful responses

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